What makes things happen.
In a networking context, it is futile to meet-up with new people. Social relationships are a product of shared routine, and nothing else works. Buddies for life and romantic couples happen because of shared routine. If there had been a weekly family reunion, for example, the probabilities of me dating my cousin would have gone up significantly, and here we are in territory of eventuality.
Debunking some counter-arguments:
I know of a charismatic dude who gets along with everyone.
Yes you do, and you don't care much about them. It doesn't matter how attractive or charismatic a person is; if you just see them once, there will be no relationship and no meaningfulness.
I've met someone, just yesterday, and it feels like I've known them all my life.
This is impersonation, also known as resuming of a past relationship. Psychos are good at this. They scan you, stalk through your past relationships, and impersonate the most significant person you knew. In here, nothing new is being created, just resumed.
I haven't even talked to this person, yet I can't stop thinking about them.
You can't stop thinking about yourself. This has nothing to do with the other person.
I was in a shared routine with my school classmates, yet we didn't connect.
You may not have connected but feelings were created. It was either respect, arousal, or spite (or however you wanna tag your feelings). Shared routine forces the creation of feelings. You may not talk with the fatty with acne, but you are in a relationship with them, and they with you. This is why being kind is a good strategy.
Only within shared routine are attempts real. Ethan famously took Alice away from home. There was no other way.
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The truth is we already have a pretty defined template of who we want as a friend. We can also spot within thirty seconds whether a newly-met person complies with that template. This alone won't do: how is meeting once someone so perfect different from watching your favourite actress at play? Shared routine is the missing ingredient. Everything else is useless.
I was in a shared routine with my school classmates, yet we didn't connect.
If that didn't work you should honestly just give up. Or try a different place. It has to be daily. Every few days. She can't get away. She can't be free. She will find a better man and forget me. She should remember me. She should never forget my name. She should be tattoo'd for life.
